Personality

I wonder what it's like to have an unpleasant personality. They say personality is a persistent pattern of traits possessed since birth, so I suppose it's very much nature then nurture. Reading Jane Eyre made me think about it. Jane Eyre wasn't a pretty child- rather plain, she was, even until adulthood. She did not please her stepmother nor maids because she wasn't pretty like a doll, nor lively like them attention seekers. She was just, plain, normal and obedient. But she was disliked for that, only earning the affection of one maid.

Things changed for her during youth, of course, as she met the kind people of Mr. Rochester's house and later, her cousins.

But it still led me to wonder about it. Charlotte Bronte, the author's biography mentioned something about her being a serious, grave and stern person; a dinner party with her as the honoured guest left everyone feeling dull and disappointed. They were expecting lively, intelligent conversation, but that didn't happen. If it's true, then that's just her personality then; a quiet lady. But people didn't really like that, they seem to prefer lively, assertive and fun people. So should she change her personality? Is it wrong to possess a personality like that, so much so to cause discomfort to others? Let down other's expectations, unable to entertain others?

I wonder, is personality permanent? Is it something we should strive to preserve, or should we carve it according to our worldly demands? If your personality is something that doesn't parallel with the mainstream world and is causing you problems, or obstructing you from obtaining your desires, should you change it? Or should we instead be changing our desires and releasing ourselves from the grasp of peer pressure, putting our original personality as the main element to be preserved?

Which to change and which not to change?
What is right and what is wrong?
What should be done and what not to be done?

Sometimes I think that we should just do whatever we want, ceasing to think too much about the consequence. If we will fall, let it be; just climb up after that. But that takes a substantial amount of courage that I am still unable to accumulate yet.